A special thanks to Mrs. Jennifer Garofalo for writing this week’s
post. The following is a collage of stories directly from a mom of a 14-year-old
boy with Duchenne. These stories show the good and the bad, but most importantly
the fact that DMD does not define who you are…
My son is not
defined by DMD
The very first time you hold your baby in your arms, their
entire future flashes before your eyes.
Who they will grow up to be, all they will accomplish, and how you are
blessed to be their parent to help them navigate through life.
We knew pretty early on that something was different about
Danny. By 12 months he was immersed in
the world of Dr’s and daily therapy sessions, whether it was Physical therapy,
occupational therapy or after the age of two, speech therapy was added. He couldn’t crawl or speak or even bend his
body but man he had a smile that lite up the room (still does). He was
diagnosed as a right hemi they called it. Cerebral palsy(CP)! Mild! It would
get better with time and therapy and he would easily adapt to his
surroundings. Except that each month
when they thought he would meet milestones, he never did. And then the Fall after he turned three, he
couldn’t walk more than two houses for trick or treating and wanted to be
carried. He also had what looked like
absent seizures. He would be talking to
you and then just blankly stare and then start talking again a few seconds
later. After months of testing, the Drs. wanted him to be admitted to the
hospital for a 72-hour EEG to see what was going on. It was during that hospital stay that we
found out he wasn’t having seizures, but he did have Duchenne Muscular
Dystrophy (DMD). WOW! I remember thinking how hard I thought his
life was with CP, we had no idea what hard was. And just like the day he was
born, I watched his future flash before my eyes and it was so drastically
different and heart wrenching.
But here is the thing, in life, you will always be faced
with adversity and paths to pick. It is
how we choose to handle these day to day paths that will define who we are and
how we see life. A very dear therapist
who was involved since the beginning with Danny gave us the BEST advice that we
still use today “Do not enable him. Things will get hard, be there for him but
do not let him act a victim.” And I think anyone involved in our lives know
that is exactly how we handle this disease. It is just that; a disease that is
part of him, but it doesn’t define him.
Does it limit him? It can. Do you need to get creative and find work
arounds? Yes! And hopefully that is what we have taught him,
there is almost always a work around to any situation.
More than anything though, he teaches us. He teaches us how
to push through adversity. Push through
when you feel left out or different.
Push through when days are hard.
He brightens the day with his smile and his snarky teenage
attitude. Does he get in trouble? Heck
yeah! At the end of the day, you need to be a respectable human being, no
matter wheelchair or not, and he has two younger brothers who look up to
him.
His whole life has taught all of us to stop and focus on
what’s most important. Each other and time.
Enjoy the gift of time. None of
us are guaranteed tomorrow.
#makeeverydaycount
-Jennifer Garofalo